And So it Begins......

Well, it was bound to start at some point..... Yesterday, my son came home and informed me that he was jumped in the school playground. His story changed a few times but from what I can gather, 2-4 older boys repeatedly pushed him into the rocks.

And he just took it. He said he told them to stop, but he didn't fight back. I reminded him that fighting is okay with mom and dad. But just knowing that "fighting is fine" is not enough.

Here's our new plan:

Now, when he gets home from school, we'll start "fight school." Then it's back to homework and the usual..... I'm still working on the details, but increased confidence, muscle, and fighting ability are the goals.

7 comments:

Rowell Owl said...

How old is your son? Mine is 13. He's had some trouble over the years with kids picking on him and bullying him. He's just put up with it up until this year. A few weeks ago, we got a call saying he'd been suspended from school for fighting. Apparantly this kid had been "saying things" to him all week and one of the days the kid pushed my son on the shoulder. The next day the kid shoved my son and my son said that was it. He called the kid an a$$hole and punched the kid and laid him out flat. When he got here, he told me he was tired of it and that kids would just keep picking on him if he let them. I was torn as to what side to take. Most of me was cheering inside, but I reminded him that there are other options to take before punching someone.

Angela said...

So sorry to hear he's had to deal with it so long. We're taught to make our son's passive, but in the end it just gets them beat up.

I'm glad your son stuck up for himself. It's not that we want them to be barbarians, but kids (and adults) shouldn't need to deal with bullies.

If I were you, I'd completely take your son's side. Stand up for him with the school. If they expel him, let him take the days off school to watch tv, get ice cream, whatever he likes. And if someone harasses him again, he knows he's able to take care of it. It's awesome for confidence and personal safety.

Angela said...

My son is 6.

Rowell Owl said...

I've always told J that whatever decisions he makes, he should weigh the options and deal with the consequences, good or bad. Bullying has become so prominent these days and ignoring the bully or worse yet "snitching" is less than effective. J grew 4 inches this summer and is starting to get broad like his dad. I'm very glad for his safety that he will be able to take care of himself and it does boost his confidence! Oh and I read your post about carrying a knife, has it ever set off any alarms? I think it's a good idea for every person to be able to defend themselves and their family.

Angela said...

I haven't had any issues with alarms, but I've never seen any alarm sensors in our area except for the airport.

MaryB said...

:( This breaks my heart. I just saw a post on another blog about a little girl being bullied at school. My daughter is 4 and I just can't stand to think about it. My nephew was having trouble with a bully last year and he just dreaded going to school. It's so unfair.

Lindy said...

I lve that! Fight School! My son had someone push him down this year. Im not sure what happened exactly but I told him if it happened again that he could do what he needed to go. He is 6 also! I also told him I wanted to know who the kids were and they would be having a talk with me along with thier parents! It is important to be an advacate for your children! Especaially at this age.

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Thank you for your comments! I appreciate all your tips, advice, and well wishes!

Angela

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